I take responsibility for my personal failings. I know that nobody is perfect, but I have to recognize my personal failings before I can overcome them. I realize that I argue _far_ too much. There are a host of faulty reasons and each of these makes different people uncomfortable in different ways.
- I argue to prove to myself that I am capable of discussing complex issues.
- I try to "debate" others to show that I respect them on an intellectual level.
- I constantly play devil's advocate to challenge my own natural assumptions and prejudices.
- I have particularly weak communication skills when it comes to deeply listening. My mind is so fixated on "the debate" that I tend to try to predict the vector of my "opponents" points rather than really listening and accepting what they are telling me.